Episode 6

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18th Nov 2024

Episode 6: Relationship w/ Our Fathers & Being Fathers In Midlife

Relationship w/ Our Fathers & Being Fathers In Midlife

Episode Summary

As fathers and sons, we inherit and carry powerful stories, unspoken expectations, and lasting lessons. In this thought-provoking episode, hosts Kevin Rogers and Joe DiRoma dive into the complex, often untold realities of fatherhood – both as sons reflecting on their fathers and as fathers guiding their own sons through life's biggest transitions.

Why You Should Listen

Kevin Rogers and Joe DiRoma, known for their depth and authenticity, use this platform to address real, unfiltered issues faced by men navigating midlife. Drawing from personal experience and inspiration from thought leaders like Dr. James Hollis, they explore relationships, legacy, and personal growth.

Why This Episode Matters

Midlife can bring a re-evaluation of what it means to be a father, son, and man. Through reflections on relationships with their own fathers, Kevin and Joe uncover insights that challenge men to rethink fatherhood, face their fears, and connect with their own sons in ways that truly matter. The discussion finds grounding in "The Middle Passage" by Dr. James Hollis, which explores the "first" and "second" adulthood and their impacts on our identity and family dynamics.

Key Quotes

“Men just don't give themselves permission to feel weak or vulnerable.” – Kevin
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” – Joe, quoting Carl Jung
“Our real job as fathers is to love, listen, and just be there.” – Kevin

Key Takeaways

  • Facing Mortality & Legacy: Men often wrestle with their legacy and self-worth in midlife, especially as they contemplate what they’ll leave behind for their children.
  • Healing Through Vulnerability: The strength of father-son relationships often lies in vulnerability. As sons, we may crave acknowledgment, but as fathers, opening up creates powerful bonds and fosters healing.
  • Reimagining Fatherhood: The role of a father evolves. At its core, being a good father means letting children learn, guiding them with love and patience, and knowing when to let them find their own way.
  • Supporting Generational Growth: By breaking cycles of inattentive parenting, men can create lasting, positive impacts on future generations, fostering a legacy of love, support, and responsibility.

Resources Mentioned

  • Book: The Middle Passage by Dr. James Hollis
  • Book: Swamplands of the Soul by James Hollis
  • Book: Modern Man in Search of a Soul by Carl Jung

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About the Podcast

Man in the Middle Show w/ Kevin & Joe
Man in the Middle Show with Kevin & Joe

Are you a middle-aged man feeling trapped in your life? Stuck in a relationship, career, health situation, or financial rut that leaves you unfulfilled? Do you find yourself asking, "Is this it? Is it me? Is there more?"

You're not alone, and the Man in the Middle Show is here to prove it.

Join Kevin and Joe, two regular guys living in the "middle", as they dive deep into the challenges, triumphs, and existential questions that plague men in midlife. This isn't your typical self-help podcast – it's a raw, honest conversation between friends who've been there, done that, and are still figuring it out.

Meet Your Hosts:

Kevin at 54, he's a bald, bionic entrepreneur with a metal heart valve and 20 years in the "bonus round" of life. A former stand-up comic turned business owner, Kevin's journey includes:
- 25 years of marriage
- Raising two newly adult children
- A near-death experience and open-heart surgery at 35
- Navigating major career shifts and life transitions

Joe is The 42-year-old "regular guy" with an extraordinary story:
- 15 years sober after a 13-year battle with addiction
- High school dropout turned successful restaurant industry leader and now COO in digital marketing
- Father to a teenager and expecting a newborn (talk about a midlife shake-up!)
- Proof that it's never too late to turn your life around

Why Listen?

Real Talk, No BS... Kevin and Joe aren't therapists or gurus – they're guys just like you, sharing their experiences and struggles without filters.

You're Not Alone! Discover that those feelings of emptiness, confusion, and restlessness are normal and part of the midlife journey for many men.

Diverse Perspectives are critical. With their vastly different backgrounds and life experiences, Kevin and Joe offer unique insights into common midlife challenges.

Inspiration to Ask Bigger Questions. Instead of easy answers, you'll be motivated to dig deeper and rediscover what truly matters to you.

A Safe Space for Men. Finally, a place where you can hear open, honest discussions about the topics men often feel they can't talk about.

Practical Wisdom. Learn from the hosts' successes and failures as they navigate relationships, career transitions, health scares, and major life changes.

Finally... some Humor and Heart. Expect laughs alongside the deep stuff – because sometimes, you've got to find the funny in life's challenges.

The Man in the Middle Show isn't about having it all figured out. It's about embracing the messy middle, finding meaning in the struggle, and realizing that your best years might still be ahead of you.

Whether you're feeling lost, looking for a change, or just want to hear from guys who get it, Kevin and Joe are here to bring you into the middle of the conversation. You're not above, you're not below – you're right there with them, part of a community of men facing midlife head-on.

Tune in and discover:
- Strategies for reigniting passion in your relationships and career
- How to navigate major life transitions with grace (or at least a sense of humor)
- Ways to redefine success and fulfillment on your own terms
- The power of vulnerability and authentic male friendships
- Tools for managing stress, health concerns, and the infamous midlife crisis

Don't let society tell you how to age or what your life should look like. Join Kevin, Joe, and a growing tribe of men who are rewriting the rules of midlife, one honest conversation at a time.

Subscribe to the Man in the Middle Show w/ Kevin & Joe because midlife doesn't have to be a crisis. It can be your awakening.

New episodes drop weekly. Available wherever you get your podcasts.

Remember... You're not stuck. You're not alone. And there's definitely more to life – let's find it together.

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